Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Shaping our Lives through Consistency.



When it comes to the growing process and learning about self-love, other people, life, etc. - I believe that consistency is the most important thing next to honesty. What if we all tried to live our lives in a consistent manner? How do you think we'd all react to each other? If we were consistently loving, forgiving, accepting, and open? Consistent living is something I could only wish upon others. As for me, I have been in a season of living my life in a way that shapes me by what I am consistently doing. Manifesting those goals, Meditating on who I am and who I am becoming. Staying consistent and dedicated to never-ending change. Consistency is developed by past patterns and current patterns. Learned behavior VS self-taught behavior. What are specific patterns you have followed or not followed? How often have you changed up those behaviors? These are some questions that have been brought to my attention when thinking of consistency. and with learning a  few things along the way, Okay, I've learned a lot of things along the way - but here is a short 5 lessons on consistency:

One.  Remember your Why.
This was HUGE for me when I was going through Cosmetology School. I've told the story of my mindset going into cosmetology school - and I also told the story of how wrong I was in that way of thinking. Along the way, I had been told to remember my why; why I started, why I was doing things the way I was, what I wanted to accomplish etc. And it became a game changer for me. With anything, I think it's important to know your why. Keep your eye on the why. Focus. And when you do that - it's going to ensure consistency in your life. 

Two.  Start with one and work your way up.
I often feel when we want a change in our life, we try to go for a dramatic turn around and change everything all at once. This is where we spread ourselves to thin and get worn down to quickly. I think it's important to pick a target area and focus on that before moving onto the next thing. For me, I like to pick a general area of what I would like to focus on - whether it's physical health or mental health, my living room vs the kitchen, saving money. etc. And as I get comfortable and start seeing changes in these smaller details, I can slowly incorporate the next things into it all while staying consistent in my focus. When it doubt, 21/90 rule. It takes 21 days to form a habit, 90 days to make it a lifestyle. 

Three.  Schedule it.
I'm a huge planner. I have a huge calendar that I triple check on a daily and at the beginning of each month I write down everything that we need to do or are doing that month. I have a happy planner that I keep on my like I do my cellphone. I refer to it more than I check my social media accounts - it has everything - my work schedule, clients appointments, formulas, phone numbers, birthdays, anniversaries, weekly goals, daily goals, monthly goals, meal plans, workout and rest days -- okay you get it. It has everything! and I found writing everything down and crossing things off as I go has really helped me be consistent. Time Management my friends - it's a game changer. 

Four.  Ignore the Voices.
Your alarm goes off, you slowly open your eyes, hit snooze, roll back over and let out a big *sigh* - Time to get up, feed the dog, make the kids...*ahem* husbands lunch, and go go go. But wait, you told yourself you'd go to the gym today. You have that grocery list that's been sitting on the counter for 3 days, that pile of laundry has been sitting on your couch for a week waiting to be folded, you need to turn the tv off and read a book. so many things you need to do and yet you've been listening to all the negative voices in your head that's been telling you "Just rest, finish this episode, do it tomorrow" and the people around you are telling you things like "you won't do that, you can't do that, why are you doing that?" -- So many voices that are so loud you can't even think. Repeat after me, ZONE THEM OUT. Turn down the volume. Ignore the voices and start making affirmations of positive thinking. 

EX) " My Day is full of new opportunities and positive outcomes. I am strong enough to get through it all." 

Five.  Tighten those boot straps and jump back on the horse.
There is this repetitive notion that once we fall of the horse, we won't get back on. Fallen off the wagon if you will. But I like to say horse because we have much more control of the direction we want the horse to go in. Miss a day of the gym? No Biggie - hit it hard the next day. Forgot to throw a load of laundry in before bed? Do 2 loads in the morning while making your breakfast. Had a "cheat meal" that turned into "cheat weekend?" It happens. Jump back on it head strong come monday. As long as you keep that horse in sight once you've fallen off..You will always be able to get back on. Stay motivated. Stay focused on staying consistent even through the set backs. We've all been there, we've all fallen off - and when you're struggling to get back on..Remember Your Why. and start back at 1. *enter brian mcknight song here* 




Learning to be consistent and have self-disciple is achievable but we have to be willing to put in the work. And here's the thing, being consistent can mean many different things to many different people. So maybe as you were reading this you were thinking of something specific or maybe you were reading it as a general understanding of being consistent. Healthy lifestyle, personal growth, friendships, relationships, career goals, home chores, etc. These are all great point of interests to focus on and reevaluate. We can learn how to be consistent in all of these aspects and through being consistent with these things, we can shape our lives for the better. 

What are somethings you with to become more consistent with? What needs more focus and better discipline in your life? COMMENT DOWN BELOW. 


Love without expecting, Love without fear...Love, Love, Love!


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