Thursday, May 28, 2015

Praying for Your Spouse


"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." - Ecclesiastes 4:12

On our Wedding Day I couldn't wait to do our unity ceremony. Not only was this going to symbolize our commitment to each other and the coming together as one. But we were doing a ceremony dedicated to one of my absolutely favorite bible verses, Ecclesiastes 4:12. It's a beautiful verse that is short and sweet, about how together Man and Woman are powerful but when they intertwine with God they become unstoppable. 

Although I have been praying for my husband since I was about 8yrs old, you know while watching cinderella and praying some fancy dude would find my lost shoes and fall in love with me, I never knew how important praying for my husband would be before I got married. I've said little prayers here and there for my speedracer since we began our journey in 2010, but the day we became Husband and Wife I truly saw the importance in praying daily for my husband. And here is what I came up with:


Why Should We Look to Prayer?

Remember that famous bible verse about Love that goes:  "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Now grit your teeth together really quickly and bare with me. Although 1 Corinthians is beautiful and should hold true in our marriages, doesn't mean it always comes easily. It's in our human nature to be jealous, impatient, quick to lash out when angry, hold grudges, forget to say I love you, lose trust, and be selfish. And as a married woman I realize how difficult it can be to leave all of those things at the door when you're about to say I do. Which is why when I'm struggling with praying for my husband, I always go back to 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. 1 Corinthians, to me, is the bible verse that keeps us all in check. It reminds me that It's not all about me. It's not all about my husband either. It's about US together. It's not reminding us of what Love IS or SHOULD be but rather what Love CAN be when we allow ourselves to love our husbands as unconditionally as God loves us. And that my friends is a deep, unconditional love. 

Do not be Selfish with Prayer.

The easy, logical thing to do when we are upset with our spouses is to yell "Lord can you make my husband not such a pain?" but the truth is, that's not really helping anyone. And God is going to answer you back with "Well how would you like me to solve this?" -- I know, I Know. God asks a lot of questions sometimes. But the dude knows what he is talking about. Trust me. When you want to lash out think of this verse. "Always be humble, gentle, and patient, accepting each other in love. You are joined together with peace through the Spirit, so make every effort to continue together in this way." ( Ephesians 4:2-3) It reminds us that it's not always about you and it's not even about your significant other, it's about you as a team. and as team you should be working together to move forward. You are not here to judge your spouse and visa versa. You are here to love them through the storms and celebrate in the triumphs. Pray for the benefit of your marriage. Do not pray about getting your peace, but rather getting you and your spouse the communication skills to find peace together. When you find yourself praying for the benefit of your marriage, you will find more of a happiness and a bigger blessing rather than praying for the benefit of yourself. 

How to Pray for Your Spouse?
I know that question is totally straight to the point, and your probably saying to yourself, "um you bow your head and talk to God." and you're right in some way. I truly believe that the absolute best way to pray for your spouse is to know what they are currently struggling with. And I'm not talking about praying for your spouse during their difficult time with studying for a test or looking for a job, which is still important to pray for but i'm talking about what are they struggling with internally? Are they stressed out about how many hours they work during the week? Are they upset that they don't spend as much time with you as they'd wish? Maybe they feel like they aren't giving their all as your Husband/Wife but don't know where to start. Look for what is emotionally breaking them down and pray for that. We MUST make time to pray for our spouses - I mean, if we don't, who else will? Knowing what our spouses are passionate about, emotionally, makes it easier for us to pray for them. And of course we should continue to pray to God about how Thankful we are for our significant other. I don't believe we say Thank You enough, to God, or to our Spouses. Prayer and Giving Thanks is truly important. 

Verses to Look at:
Lord, Please watch over my husbands work ( Proverbs 22:29, Psalm 90:17)
Lord, Remind my husband to pray ( 1 Thessalonians 5:17)
Lord, I Pray for his Heart (Proverbs 4:23)
Lord, Surround my husband with those who love him ( Proverbs 13:20)
Lord, Keep my Husband Healthy ( Romans 12:12, Corinthians 6-19)
Lord, Continue to Bless my Husband ( Proverbs 15:33, Ephesians 6:6)
Lord, Give my Husband Peace (Philippians 4:6-7)
Lord, Remind my husband to Love others ( Mark 12:31a)
Lord, Keep my Husbands Priorities straight (Matthew 22:37b)
Lord, Remind my Husband to always stay Humble ( Proverbs 15:33)
Lord, I pray for my Husbands spiritual growth ( 2 peter 3:18)
Lord, Remind us to Love our Spouses as you Love us ( Ephesians 5:22-23)

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    1. YOU! YAY! Love you! Thank You so so much! I loved writing this post. I've been planning on it for a while actually. I have totally re-invented by blog. I'm excited.

      So Happy you stopped by!
      -Ashlee

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