That's how old I turned this recent monday, June 18th.
Since then I have been really slowing down the week and trying to make the most of this new-turned age. I am excited to see what lessons I learn in the next 365 days of my life and what adventures I'll go on..But before I do, I have written down 28 Lessons that I've learned in the last 28 years of my life. Of course I've learned oh so much more, but I figured these were twenty-eight things I wish I knew back then and are glad I know now..
27. Drink More Water. Water is hard to drink, I get it, But when I started drinking a gallon of water a day, I saw so many improvements in my hair, skin, nails, bones, energy..Everything! and it flushes all the gunk out..what a win.
26. Read More Books. I've always been a book lover, thanks grandma, and so I've tried to always keep a library of my favorite books. The more you read, the more you learn, the more you read the more self-care you contribute too. My Current Faves: "Own Your Glow" by Latham Thomas, This is Me by Chrissy Metz, and "Grace not Perfection" by Emily Ley
25. Call Your Parents. I can't get through the day without talking to my parents, even if its for a few short minutes. And now that they moved out of state and 1500 miles away from me, I want to stay in touch with them even more so. Our phone calls are what I will always cherish.
24. Dream Big and Go For it. It's easy to say you have a dream and then waiting on it. But go for it. There is no better time than now to shoot for your wildest dreams. Keep pushing on, switch up your form of attack, and make it happen.
23. Study Hard. High School, College, etc. Open your textbook and read, even if you think you don't need to use the book for anything, the best thing you can do is expand your knowledge and study hard.
22. Surround yourself with people who inspire you. There is absolutely no point to continue surrounding yourself with people who suck the energy and happiness out of you. Surround yourself with people that feel like a hot shower on a cold day, who inspire you to create and do, who make you feel like dancing in the rain.
21. Accept your mental illness and ask for help. Anxiety, Depression, OCD, etc. They are so important and so relevant in our every day lives. It's okay to admit that you're struggling, we all are, but reaching out to a friend and a doctor was the best decision I ever made. You are not alone, You are loved, You are worthy, and are needed.
20. Believe in yourself and your potential. I always tell people that I am my own hype-squad. and it's true, I had to learn to clap for myself and believe in all that I can do. The cliche is true: you can do anything you set your mind to.
19. Wake up Early and Enjoy the Morning Calm. I learned this at a young age from my dad, wake up with the sun, make a cup of coffee, and enjoy the calm and quiet before you begin your busy day. Me time is everything and allowing yourself to wake up and refresh before the day is so important.
18. Always Keep Bagel Bites and Top Ramen in the House. Because sometimes all of your bills are due at the same time and you realize you forgot to go grocery shopping. Or sometimes you get home from work and you don't want to cook a big meal.
17. Become Best Friends with your Siblings. The person/people who will always be there for you since day one are your siblings. Becoming friends with my big sister was such a great blessing because I know that she will always be there for me and always have a understanding for me without judgement.
16. Find something you love. Find a passion, even if it's just a hobby. It is important to find something that we love to do so that we can have something to go to during hard times, or down time, and just to make our souls happy. Writing, Drawing, Dancing, Blogging, Exercise ..whatever. Just find something.
15. Watch these classics: Pretty in Pink, The Breakfast Club, Ferris Bueller's Day off, Fast times at Ridgemont High, 16 Candles, Teen Witch, Footloose, A Walk to Remember, Drop Dead Fred, Harry and the Hendersons, Now and Then, The Craft, Fried Green Tomatoes, Stand By Me, The Sandlot, American Graffiti, and Cry Baby.
14. Love everyone and Be Kind to People. It's simple, it's what we learn as kids...Be Nice to People. It really isn't that hard to just be kind. and sometimes, yes, people are difficult but Love them anyways. It costs nothing and chances are, they need it more than you know.
13. Play in the Sprinklers. The summer after SR and I got married we had sprinklers going in the front yard to water the grass on a hot humid day. I decided, lets go run through the sprinklers. It was the best decision. We remembered to be kids, have fun, and we were able to cool off in the hot summer. Enjoy the Little things.
12. Turn off the Technology. Disconnect with the world for atleast an hour a day. TV's, Phones, Computers..etc, it takes up so much space in our lives and it makes the world a little more fuzzy. It's so beneficial to your health to disconnect and go outside, or work/meditate in silence. Be without technology and recharge your mind.
11. Buy Yourself Flowers. I am obsessed with having flowers and greenery in the house. And I love buying flowers for myself because its just a little gift that brightens my soul and my house.
10. Be okay with Setting Boundaries. Set boundaries for yourself and the people in your life. They are needed. Learn to Say No, Learn to walk away, and learn to be okay with it. Boundaries are crucial to our overall health and happiness.
9. Accept that Nobody is Perfect. We all have flaws, and when we learn to accept that nobody is perfect, even if their Instagram says otherwise, we are able to find better understanding and love towards each other. I am not perfect, I will lay all my cards out on the table and accept all my imperfections.
8. Pray Hard and Pray Often. I think a lot of people have forgotten the art of praying and what a good few minutes in prayer can do for our lives. So learn to pray, learn to have a relationship with God, and never stop.
7. Accept the Apology You never Received. This is by far one of my most favorite pieces of advice that I ever received. Sad matter of the fact, most people will not admit when they were wrong and they won't apologize for what they've done. So don't hold on to that pain and that weight. Accept the apology you never received and make peace with it.
6. Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. The Goddess, Eleanor Roosevelt, said this and it has stuck with me since my teen years. People will treat you the way you let them treat you (boundaries), and their words and actions will only affect you if you let them. But guess what, their opinions have nothing to do with who you are, truly are, so don't give them the power to upset you.
5. Stop Apologizing and Explaining yourself. The moment I stopped apologizing for things, even when they weren't anything to be sorry for, I felt free. I constantly felt the need to explain to people why I do certain things, why I have certain feelings towards things, etc..But I learned that it's none of their concern, I live my life the way I do because it makes me feel happy and warm...So, stop explaining that and just do you, boo!
4. Step out of your comfort zone. Live fearlessly and do something you are unsure of. For example: Go into the ocean even though you are pretty sure you will (a) get attacked by a shark or (b) get sucked under by a wrecked ship. These are real fears of mine..
3. Learn the art of Balance. Lay on the couch and watch movies all day and then workout the next day. Eat your favorite hamburger or mexican food and then eat a salad. Drink a Beer, Drink a water. Party on Friday, Rest on Saturday. It's all about balance..and it works wonders.
2. Don't feel like you need to keep drinking since everyone is. If you don't want to drink, Don't Drink. If you don't want to do another shot of crappy vodka because you feel like you've met your limit, Don't take the shot. You know your body, you know your limit (hopefully) and you don't need to always do what others are doing.
1. Love Yourself. Above anything else, accept yourself, love yourself, trust yourself..Be Yourself.
Here We Go 28, Let's Do This!